Sometimes, I still can’t believe I’m a married man with a daughter. Marriage was always something I wanted eventually, but for the longest time, I couldn’t see how it would happen. My parents have been married for over 40 years, and growing up, I witnessed firsthand the sanctity and significance of marriage. Because of this, I never took the idea lightly.
When I dated, marriage was always at the forefront of my mind. But at the same time, it felt like such a distant goal—something I’d only pursue when everything was “perfect.” I wanted the perfect timing, the perfect moment, and, of course, the perfect woman to tie the knot with. That mindset is probably why it took me so long to get married.
I walked down the aisle at 47 years old. That’s when I learned one of the most important lessons of my life: The perfect opportunity and perfect moment don’t exist. Marriage isn’t about waiting for perfection. It’s about choosing the right person and deciding together to build a life.
For years, I put immense pressure on myself to “have it all together” before getting married. I thought I needed to be the perfect man, with my career, finances, and life completely sorted out. That pressure was overwhelming, and looking back, I realize it was the wrong approach.
Marriage isn’t about perfection—it’s about partnership. It’s about finding someone who understands you, someone willing to work with you toward shared goals. It’s about having a partner who supports your ambitions without judgment and sees the best in you. Most importantly, it’s about trusting God to bring the right person into your life at the right time. It wasn’t until I fully let go and let God guide me that things began to fall into place.
Marriage is more than just a milestone. It’s a foundation for creating a lasting legacy, finding deeper happiness, living longer, and building generational wealth. But if I could give one piece of advice to anyone considering marriage, it’s this: Don’t put so much pressure on yourself to make everything “perfect” first.
Release the preconceived notions about how it’s supposed to go, and don’t lean solely on your own understanding. Trust God’s plan. I know now that earlier is better than later. The longer runway you have to grow, learn, and figure out this beautiful thing called marriage, the better it is.
So don’t be afraid to take that leap. When you find the person God has chosen for you, tie the knot. It will elevate your life in ways you can’t even imagine.
– Social Dad DC
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