The other day, I was talking to a friend about how dry DC feels to me. I complained that I don’t see any exciting events happening, which is strange because I’ve always been the guy who knows what’s going on in the social scene. But since moving here, becoming a husband, and stepping into fatherhood, I’ve felt completely clueless.
My friend quickly shut down my narrative. “DC isn’t dry,” they said. “There are tons of amazing events happening—you just don’t know about them.” That’s when it hit me: maybe I’m not as plugged in as I used to be. Maybe I’m washed. Done. A has-been. Totally out of the loop.
It was a tough realization because I’ve always prided myself on being “that guy.” The one who not only knows what’s happening but also curates what’s happening. But as my friend pointed out, I’ve been lying to myself. My focus has shifted—family life has taken priority, and as a result, I’ve lost some connection to the social “streets.”
So, am I washed? Yes and no.
Yes, I’m no longer hitting the social scene like I was back in my NYC days. I’m not that single guy throwing events or staying out until sunrise. My priorities have changed. But does that mean I’m irrelevant? Absolutely not. Being “washed” is a state of mind, and there are plenty of ways to stay connected and curate experiences that align with where I am in life.
I may not be popping bottles in the club, but I still want to be around amazing, progressive, and inspiring people who are living life to the fullest. My goal now is to find and connect with my tribe here in DC. It won’t look like it did when I was single and “the man” in NYC, but it can still be vibrant, meaningful, and fun.
Yes, I enjoy the countless birthday parties my daughter gets invited to, and I secretly love Target and Costco runs with my family. But there’s a lot of life to be lived outside of my current comfort zone, and I’m determined to discover it.
So, if you know of events or communities that fit a dad and husband looking to live life fully, let me know. I have a few ideas in mind, but the more the merrier.
Am I washed? Hell no. I’m evolving. The denial might still be lingering, but so is my determination to redefine what “living life to the fullest” looks like at this stage of my journey. Life’s about growth, connection, and new experiences, and I’m here for all of it.
Speaking of living it up—why not meet me this summer in St. Lucia for Carnival? Let’s make some unforgettable memories. Grab your spot now: St. Lucia Carnival Summer 2025. Let’s go!
– Social Dad DC
SOCIAL DAD DC 